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To Love--An Action
by Bishop Thomas Wesley Weeks, Sr.Send To Friend Tags: (Tag) Click here for a printable version. I have said that love is an action, an activity. This leads to the final major misconception of love which needs to be addressed. Love is not a feeling. Many, many people possessing a feeling of love and even acting in response to that feeling act in all manner of unloving and destructive ways. On the other hand, a genuinely loving individual will often take loving and constructive action toward a person he or she consciously dislikes, actually feeling no love toward the person at the time and perhaps even finding the person repugnant in some way. The key word in this distinction is “will.” . . . Genuine love is volitional rather than emotional. . . . True love is not a feeling by which we are overwhelmed. It is a committed, thoughtful decision. Husbands, decide as of this moment that you will love your wife and family no matter what you are feeling. Matter of fact, you cannot use feelings as a guide in making any decision in the marriage. Some days you will feel great, other days, not so good. You cannot lead your family successfully based on how you feel when you get up in the morning. The Bible instructs us to: dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (I Peter 3:7). Husbands do what you know and not what you feel. Women use feelings with great effectiveness. They can have a sense about things and be right almost every time. Many times it seems as if they have eyes in the back of their heads. They can anticipate the desires of their spouse and children and act on that without a spoken word. They can see the games of other women or another person who tries to get the better of their man. Not so with men. We must use our reasoning and intellectual powers to stay on course. Our jobs call for reasoning. We like to give answers based on facts.If we try to be intuitive, we fail miserably. Thus, when it comes to the manner in which we handle our wives, we must do what we know. That takes discipline and discipline takes love. Why are you fussing with your wife?You know by now that you will not win the argument but you also know it does not stop you from making the decision. So, let her win the argument, and you make the decision. Since you are making the decision, you know that two heads are better than one, so listen to what she has to say. She will contribute to the thought process. She wants to. She must. Let her! You will be happier and she will be too! "A happy woman in the house makes for a happy house! A man can be happy and the house in turmoil, but if Momma is happy everybody feels better!" Do not do things you know will upset her. St. Peter refers to the woman as the weaker vessel. We know as far as personality is concerned, she is equal to us and we know when it comes to handling physical pain, in many instances such as child birth, she is stronger than we are. But in this scripture, it is referring to her emotional strength. She needs us to be her undergirding. That is why we must lose the argument to her. That is how we carry her. You can win the battle and loose the war. Yes, you won the argument but it took her two months to recover from it. Was it worth it? Love says I will be your covering and also your support! Submitted by: JaPaul Vines Originally Posted: Oct 28, 2003 at 1:01 PM Last Updated: Jul 29, 2010 at 1:12 PM -- Current Rating: 0 of 5 Click here for a printable version.
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